Do you know the impact that the language you use has on your wellbeing and growth? Most of us spend all our waking hours either talking to ourselves or to others, scattering words around like they are a limitless currency. It’s true that it doesn’t cost a penny to use 200 words when 10 will do, but the price isn’t calculated by bulk. Instead, the true cost of language is paid by your self-esteem – with all the negative words depleting your savings, while the positive ones are an investment in building it up.
Banishing the bad words
So, let’s imagine that you spend a lot of your time talking about how you ‘can’t’ or ‘won’t’ do things or how you ‘try’ but always ‘fail’ and that you’d do something differently but ‘it’s just the way you are’. These are classic negative words that construct part of the limiting beliefs that stifle your personal development.
In coaching sessions, I work with clients to understand the genesis of this negative thinking and how to overcome it. Once we identify the problem, dismantle it and replace that bad language habit with a positive one, the impact is significant.
So, if you spend a lot of time convincing yourself that you ‘can’t or won’t’ do things, you’ll know that it’s incredibly difficult to move past those beliefs. What’s sad is that the things that hold back people with great potential can be constructs of their minds and a complete fallacy. Imagine being able to throw out all those statements and then changing that narrative. What would that mean to you? It’s time to banish the bad language and do something different instead.
If you were completely honest, how often do you make a negative statement to excuse yourself from moving out of your comfort zone? Don’t worry, we’re all guilty of this. We use these ‘facts’ to get out of doing things because we are resigned to what’ll happen if we gave it a go. Written in black and white, you can see what a ridiculous approach that is, particularly if removing this ‘fact’ about yourself could help you improve your wellbeing or performance. So, it’s time to embrace positivity.
First things first, we need to banish the word ‘try’. As an incredibly wise Jedi once said, ‘Do or do not, there is no try’ and if we can’t trust Master Yoda, we can’t trust anyone. Stop trying to do things, or rather saying you’ll try and get on with doing them. To do something is to approach it with purpose and confidence, just adjusting your language will have an impact.
Next, it’s time to wave goodbye to ‘can’t’ and ‘won’t and any other word that falls into their miserable little club. Stop using those words and start thinking about how you can be more positive. Start using words like ‘can’ and ‘will’, be positive about what you can do and what you love to do. Not only will this help you to build your self-esteem, but it’ll also help instil confidence in you and your ability in the people around you. You’ll be amazed by the opportunities this creates to grow and improve.
These may seem like small tweaks, but I promise the results are anything but minuscule. By creating the habit of positive self-talk, you’ll feel better and present yourself more confidently to the world. Most importantly, it’s a chance for you to call yourself out on the nonsense you’ve assembled over the years that holds you back. I’ve worked with so many clients who found that by making positive language a consistent habit, they can overcome barriers and move forward.
If you’d like to find out how I can help you work through this problem, ring 01603 567794 or email email@example.com.